Adult party fetish bdsm scene in Los Angeles.

For the uninitiated, BDSM (which stands for Bondage, Dominance, Sadism and Masochism) Los Angeles may seem a quirky, perverted and wrong-headed view of life and of love. In point of fact, many may erroneously believe that it is a lifestyle choice for people of ill-repute or those who enjoy abusing others (or who enjoy being abused). This couldn’t be further from the truth, and is an unfortunate point of view fostered by fear and ignorance. Gay spanking also fall into this category.

Paring it down, BDSM Los Angeles comes in two forms – the variety for lifestyle appreciators, and those who prefer the kink or fetish aspect of it. What does this mean? In lifestyle BDSM Los Angeles, two people agree to consensually bring the Dominant/submissive (D/s) dynamic into their relationship on a permanent basis. Sexual pleasure does enter into it on occasion, but it is not the main focus of BDSM Los Angeles lived as a lifestyle. Conversely, kink or fetish BDSM Los Angeles only brings it out at certain times and specifically for sexual gratification to both parties.

Neither is more important or more highly valued than the other. Both forms have pros and cons to consider, and simply put, one may not be for you. Despite what some may think, choice is a huge part of this. There is no abuse, no subjugation, nothing that occurs without the willingly given permission of both parties. In point of fact, there are more than a few people who ‘evolve’ in their preferences, going from utilizing BDSM in the bedroom, to living it 24/7.

Practitioners of BDSM Los Angeles are no more amoral or bad than any other person, and the notion that people who prefer it were somehow mistreated or abused as children is groundless. It ‘is’ possible, just as it is possible for a blind man to be a doctor, or a deaf man to play music or for men to sew a dress or women to shoot a gun, but emotional health and happiness are two of the most important things in a thriving BDSM relationship. While it is true that what the Dom/me says goes, and it is the submissive’s place to please the Dom/me in all things, choice and trust are of the highest importance. If the Submissive doesn’t trust the Dom/me to care for them, to safeguard them, and act with their best interests, or if the Dom/me simply sees their position as one where they can exert their will upon the submissive without consideration for the Submissive’s desires or needs, then the relationship is doomed to failure.

That said, a D/s relationship, much like other ‘different’ relationships must be kept quiet. Average people have a fear of the unknown. This can manifest in ostracism, contempt, hatred, even violence. Livers of alternative lifestyle choices have endured this for ages, like those in the LGBT community. It may be that keeping it secret intensifies the thrill of it, especially for those who live it 24/7. Right out in the open, living and breathing it, while no one else is the wiser. Then there are others, who simply do not care what society at large thinks, and they are very open about their lifestyle choices.

Politics, social mores and a general lack of acceptance in Los Angeles tends to keep D/s practitioners ‘in the closet.’ Sexual experimentation goes a long way towards helping a potential submissive or Dom/me figure out what feels good, what works for them, and what they want out of a relationship, but with so much of society trying to tamp down on what seems ‘perverse’, is it any wonder that some people have issues with sharing their emotions, needs and wants with a potential partner? They spend so much time bottling it up because everyone around them says that those internal things are ‘wrong’, that sadly, sometimes they believe it. But with a firm yet loving hand, a skilled Dom/me can work to bring the shy submissive out of their shell, and to thrive.

Positive Parenting Ideas: Alternatives To Spanking Your Child.

What is the best way to handle difficult behavior in children? What is the best method of child discipline? What are the most successful parenting ideas. The opinions are endless. The expert advice is vast. The proof is scarce. Many sources of parenting advice are based on the opinions, values and observations of men who spend much of their time in offices. Although we may agree with many of these professionals, they probably have no idea what your life is really like. Most of these authors have not spent one day facing the challenges that we, as moms, face day after day, after day. I do not intend to discredit these people and their many good parenting ideas. I just want you to keep in mind, as you read from the huge stockpile of parenting advice, that the real expert is you!

Spanking is an emotional issue for most moms (and dads) and we all have strong feelings about it. I will not debate the merits or the evils of spanking here, because these arguments are usually not productive. In my experience, however, every mom, I have ever met, hates spanking her children. It is usually done, only when a mom can think of no other way to solve the problem.

That is the reason for this discussion. I am offering alternatives to spanking because it makes moms feel lousy and that is not good for you or you children. It may be helpful to know that most of the research on child discipline indicates that occasional, mild spankings are not harmful, but not helpful either. Here is list of some positive parenting ideas and alternatives to spanking, recommended by professional and other moms.

**Keep in mind that what children want most of all is their parent’s attention, and they will work very hard to get it. Whatever behavior (positive or negative) gets your child the most attention (positive or negative) is the behavior that you will probably see again and again.

** Use A “Time Out” (effectively and consistently). 

** Allow natural consequences–The child dawdles in the morning; the child is late for school. Don’t rescue the child from the natural consequences, such writing an excuse note for the tardy.

** Impose logical consequences–The child makes a mess; the child must clean it up before playing, TV, etc. If your child is slow or uncooperative in the morning, impose an earlier bedtime.

The success of this techniques, requires that we, as mom’s, stay strong and impose the logical consequence–no rescuing.

** You can use incentives such as tokens or fake money. The child is given tokens for positive behavior and charged tokens for negative behavior. The tokens or fake money can then be used to buy extra privileges around the house.

** Yucky behavior, yucky job. What is a job that you hate and your kids hate? This can be used as a consequence for rudeness and or unacceptable words.

** No sweets in a dirty mouth. Use this as a consequence for rude or unkind words; no dessert, cookies, etc for a day.

** If your child is irritable or in a bad mood, perhaps no discipline is in order. Sometimes just listening and giving your child the chance to express his feelings is all that is needed.

You may want to check out one of these books for parenting ideas to see if it fits with your particular “mom style”.

** Parenting with Love and Logic, by Foster W. Cline and Jim Fay

** Discipline Without Shouting or Spanking, by Jerry Wyckoff and Barbara C. Unell

** 1-2-3 Magic, by Thomas W. Phelan

** Children: The Challenge, by Rudolph Dreikurs. Written in the 1960’s, it is classic, regarded by many as one of the best parenting books available. A few of his ideas are probably outdated, but it is highly recommended by most people who have read it.

Remember that you know your child and your family better than anyone else does. You know what type of environment will best nurture you children.

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There is always good food in San Antonio. People here love to eat, filling up their appetites with the best tasting food to satisfy their every craving. What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you think of San Antonio? The aroma and taste of barbecue and grills may be overpowering your senses. True enough, this is the best food in San Antonio. But that’s only one person’s opinion. In a city of over a million people, there are sure to be different “favorites.” So here are some the best places to eat in Los Angeles. 

EZ’s Brick Oven and Grill

EZ’s Restaurant is one of the longest-lived restaurants in San Antonio. Since its foundation in 1989, EZ’s has branched out to other cities and has served a lot of patrons satisfactorily. Even if you stay at the luxury of your hotel, you can’t help yourself from eating their pizza, fish, burgers and salads which are all deliciously done in Los Angeles. You may also bring children with you in this kid-friendly restaurant.

Guenther House

If you are lodging in a contemporary hotel yet you want to have a historic ambiance while dining, then Guenther House is just right for you. They serve their patrons with a good taste of salads, sandwiches, and soups. Aside from its historic surroundings, Guenther House offers a scenic view of the San Antonio River.

Wings Around the World

Chicken wings are one the favorite food that Texans would want to eat. Serving 80 different chicken wing flavors, it would take a lifetime to taste them all! If you want to experience chicken wings like you have never before, this is the place to go to. If you like it hot, try the hottest chicken wings that have been made in the whole world and have this one of a king chicken wing experience. Whatever taste you may like, they will have it prepared for you. Chicken is cooked to perfection with the perfect taste to it.